How to Bring up Happier Children

How to Bring up Happier Children

Read the following text about how to bring up happier children and match each paragraph to its heading. There is one extra heading which you do not need to use.



Don't let your kid hide behind a screen. Instead, encourage them to be involved in conversation with real people in the real world. Confidence in the online world (although important) is not the same as real world confidence.

When you're growing up, the journey is more important than the destination. So whether your child makes the winning goal for his team or accidentally misses that opportunity, applaud their effort, says the psychologist and author Carl Pickhardt. They should never feel upset for trying. "Trying hard builds more confidence than occasionally doing well," he explains.

If you do the hard work for your child, then they'll never develop the abilities or the confidence to face difficulties on their own. It is better that your child doesn’t get the best marks at school, as long as they are learning how to solve the problems and do the work. 3) 

Sometimes a child's continuous number of questions can be boring, but it should be encouraged. Paul Harris of Harvard University told The Guardian that asking questions is a helpful exercise for a child's development because it means they realize that "there are things they don't know and that there are invisible worlds of knowledge they have never visited."

Nothing will confuse your child more than not applauding his or her efforts. Giving useful comments and making suggestions is fine — but never tell them they're doing a bad job. If your kid is scared to fail because they worry you'll be angry or disappointed, they'll never try new things.


Don't expect your child to behave like an adult. "When a child feels that only acting as well as their parents is good enough, that unrealistic idea can decrease effort," he says. "Trying to be what your parents want, can reduce confidence."


Paying too much attention soon can reduce the child's ability to be independent, declares Pickhardt. When parents help their child too soon and too often, they discourage him/her from developing age-appropriate autonomy and encourage the child to expect other adults to protect him/her from facing any challenge.

Pickhardt says that parents have a responsibility to "increase life experiences so the child can develop confidence in dealing with a larger world." Exposing children to new things, situations and places teach them that no matter how scary and different something seems, they can achieve it.

When parents are too strict, it can have a negative impact on children. Psychological supervision can limit a child’s independence and leave them less able to regulate their own behavior.


You are your child's hero — at least until they're a teenager. Use that power to show them how to think, act, and speak. Set a good example, and be a role model. Pickhardt says watching you succeed will help your child be more confident that they can do the same.

Want to bring up sociable children? Try adding the words "please" and "thank you" to your own vocabulary. Kids learn how to interact with others mainly by observing how adults do it and then modeling that behaviour themselves. So, if you treat everyone, from cashiers and bus drivers to teachers and family members, with respect, it is probable that your kids will, as well.

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